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You have chosen this subject whether it is your own use of alcohol you
are concerned about, or the alcohol use of someone else whom you care
about. If itís someone elseís alcohol use, it would be a good idea for
you to read this material first, then pass it on to that person.
Just because you or other people think that someoneís use of alcohol is
a problem, itís not an issue for that person unless that person says so.
The same is true for you. Even if your alcohol usage has landed you in
jails and hospitals, if people have been severely injured or killed due
to your alcohol consumption, if youíve lost your driverís license, your
marriage, your jobs, all due to your alcohol consumption, nothing will
change unless you, or the person having the problem, says it is a
problem and that he/she is ready to do something to change it.
People often just let things slide. Itís not easy to change personal
habits. Inertia is powerful. Also, people donít like to admit, even to
themselves, that they have a problem. Wait Ďtil you see, below, the
beliefs of the person who is dependent on alcohol!
In my many years of treating people with alcohol dependence, aka
ďalcoholicsĒ, I learned that alcohol became the chemical of choice for
them for stress relief and to feel better even if only for a short time,
and itís all based on the beliefs that they strongly hold. Sure,
genetics may play a role, as well as environment. Growing up as the
child of alcoholic parents is certainly an environmental issue, and can
be a genetic one, also.
If alcoholism is all in the genes, or based on environmental factors,
why is it that so many children of alcoholics do not become dependent on
alcohol, and how is it that so many thousands of people are able to stop
using alcohol for long periods of time, even for the rest of their
Why do people believe they need a drug of choice, or a chemical of
choice? In the Guide for Coping, we see the different ways people can
respond to the need for relief from stress: Going crazy with shouting,
cursing, and violence; using chemicals such as drugs or alcohol; or
successfully coping with the causes of the stress and getting relief in
healthy ways during that process.
Millions of people drink alcohol and most of them are not considered
alcoholics. If you have alcohol with dinner, at a ball game, or at a
party, but you hardly ever get drunk, your use of alcohol doesnít cause
you serious trouble, if there is never a time when you feel you must
have alcohol to relieve pressures or stress, and if you never have
any problem stopping after just one or two drinks, then you donít
qualify as an alcoholic. Youíre probably not disappointed.