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Almost everyone has shared-love relationships to some extent. But not nearly everyone has fully satisfying shared-love relationships. Or, some people did have such relationships for a period of time, and then that relationship became troubled, less satisfying, even ceasing to exist in any useful way.

What is shared-love? In its highest form, it is the ultimate, the utmost, in mutual trust and caring between two people. It can be familial, romantic, or between friends.

Friends are people who share a relationship of mutual benefit. If benefits do not go in both directions, the relationship is not a true friendship. Some friendships involve enough mutual trust and caring to be called a shared-love relationship.

When shared love combines the utmost in mutual caring and trust with a mutually exclusive sexual relationship, the most powerful and fulfilling of all shared-love relationships exists, namely that of romantic love at its highest level.

The familial love between siblings, or between parent and child, can be extremely powerful in emotional richness and value, but unless an adult also has the particular romantic-love relationship described above, the ultimate in happiness and joy is missing from that person’s life. This does not mean that a person cannot find happiness, joy, and fulfillment in other relationships and activities. It simply means that the most powerful and fulfilling of all shared-love relationships is not present.

As pointed out in the Guide to Achieving Maximum Self-Love, self-love must exist at an adequate level before shared-love can be satisfyingly enjoyed. Emotional richness, the enjoyment of happiness, contentment, and fulfillment on the highest levels, requires that all three of our human emotional needs be satisfied: Self-love, shared-love, and self-expression. Self-expression is showing ourselves, and the world, what we can do, accomplish, achieve. Self-love must be adequately present first for us to attain and maintain adequate shared-love and self-expression. The more we fulfill any of the three emotional needs, the more ready we are to fulfill the others. Without any one of the three, let alone with deficiencies in two or all three, there is a gaping hole, or defect, in our lives. We are certainly not emotionally rich until that void is filled.

But how do you find your perfect romantic-love partner? Let’s forget about “perfect” partners. No person is perfect, so no partnership, no relationship, can be perfect. Let’s talk about finding a suitable partner, which I believe is not usually so very difficult.

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