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What do all philanthropists have in common, besides the fact that they all
donate a lot of money to various causes? When I ask people this question,
I usually just get a puzzled look. Some will say that all philanthropists
are generous, but that is not necessarily true—some may be doing the
giving mainly for tax reasons, while others could be doing it for the
For me the answer is: They are all rich! You cannot give what you do not
have. The more you have, the more you can give. And, it may also be true
that generous giving attracts in kind—so that receiving often soon follows
At any rate, you can’t give what you don’t have, which explains why
self-love must come first, before we can share love meaningfully and
completely, and before our self-expressions, showing ourselves and the
world what we can do, can fully satisfy us.
It is very helpful for the acquisition of self-love to begin in infancy
and childhood from the love shown to us by our parents. If this doesn’t
happen, self-love can still be attained, at a later age or in a different
way, based on the love shown by people other than the parents, such as
grandparents, teachers, friends, or as part of a romantic relationship.
Self-love includes self-respect, self-esteem, and self-confidence. To have
self-love you must admire and approve of yourself. Self-love is generally
at low levels, even virtually absent, in alcoholics and drug addicts, and
in very depressed people.
Suppose you have some idea that you need more self-love than you already
have. The BEST System can be used as a self-help tool for the solving of
this or any other personal problem. But, for that to happen, you would
have to be very clear that having a higher level of self-love is something
you are serious about. You need it, want it, and you are ready to use the
self-help strategy of The BEST System to get it, starting within the next
day or two. Putting off starting the journey to make an important change
in your life for more than a day or two, generally guarantees that you
won’t start that journey any time soon, if ever.
What can interfere with getting started? Alcoholism, drug addiction,
depression, lack of shared-love relationships—all of these can make it
difficult to commit to taking positive steps to improve your life. It may
be necessary to simultaneously use the Guides for those other issues in
order to get started on increasing your self-love. It is certainly true
that if you take one step, any step, no matter how small, with the intent
of making yourself a better life, your self-love automatically increases,
because you begin to respect yourself more, to admire what it is you’re
trying to accomplish...